How anxiety takes over and lies

When someone puts a sad face by a text comment, making you feel guilty for turning them down. (And you continue feeling guilty about it for days.) but you’re trying to be better at enforcing your boundaries and you feel like you did good. Personal pride doused by fire.

When someone just wants to sit down and talk with you about something that frustrates and angers them and you think it’s something you did and you mentally prepare yourself to have to defend yourself, but it actually had completely nothing to do with you and you feel relief.