My problem is the lack of acceptance, the denial and the refusal to believe. The absolute hardest part is when the people who are closest to you and who are supposed to be the ones that accept you and love you and want you to be authentic are the ones that can’t accept it and refuse to allow themselves the truth about who you are. Unfortunately, the cognitive dissonance and the overall suppression of reality that they allow themselves is insanely hurtful and detrimental to the possibility to have intimacy and vulnerability. If you want someone to want to be close to you and be real with you, you have to be OK with accepting things and verbalizing things that you don’t think or want to believe in. It’s OK for us to accept that we can be wrong and things aren’t the way we think they are. But it has to go both ways or our relationship can never be truly united. I find that the people who can’t accept themselves or who struggle who loves themselves are the ones who can’t accept things about other people because their own reality is warped, and the unfortunate side effect is the iceberg that sinks the ship.
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