"don't label me!" .. but is it a label? when is it okay to "label"? even necessary?

 naming something

versus

labeling something

versus

defining something

why is this a big deal? 

I have found myself knowing myself BETTER by being able to put a name or a reason to something. 

That doesn't make it a "label".

That doesn't make it an "excuse". 

That makes it an ANSWER and a helpful piece of the life I am living. So therefore I can live better.