When you get alone time as a parent, generally it means getting a room to yourself for an hour.
Scratch that.. even during that hour, you can still hear people in the background, you can still tell the non-adults are waiting for you to be done being “alone”.
And even the other adult in the house can sometimes “bother you” just because you know (or you think.. anxiety playing in here) that they really wish you out there with them.. just sitting there being with them.
Guess what.. there’s nothing wrong with that!
Now imagine you have sensory issues, you’re empathetic, you’re overwhelmed or on the edge, and you are taking this time away from everyone because you either need to recharge or because you really just need to be away from people. And because you’re a people pleaser, you want to make them happy, so at your own expense you go back out there with them, not really ready for it, but feeling guilty.
NO!
Being alone in a room by yourself is NOT the same as actually being alone, with no people waiting, no chores to do, maybe just take a shower and read and.. whatever YOU want that HELPS you just.. be.
Just hear your breathe, just put on a face mask, just scroll through your FB account, post something silly on INSTA, write in your diary, lay on the ground outside, no matter what the weather is, and not have someone look at you like you’re crazy, binge watch what’s been sitting in your Watch Later list on YouTube for a while. WITH WINE AND NAIL POLISH
This is helpful alone-ness.
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